Monday, September 29, 2014

Siblings, Friendship and Peacemaking Part 1

 Recently, my mom and I talked about different ways we can interact with some of my siblings. Each person learns in a different way, and trying to figure out which sibling fits which category, is not easy! ;) 
As my siblings got older, they started to work, attend college, and other life events… the time for me to spend with them, wasn't as often as I used to be able to. I was no longer able to say on the spot, “Hey, you want to go see a movie with some friends?” We now, had to schedule it in.
     My older brother, works full time, so, the time we get with him, is not very much. My two younger brothers, between jumping from jobs and doing school, and homework, the time we get with them, like I said, isn't as often as it used to be.
     Real “life training” begins at home when your sister won’t share her toys or when your little brother scribbles all over your new coloring book. It continues as you grow up and learn how to respond to daily trials and conflicts (big or small) that you experience at home. If you can’t succeed at home in the “small conflicts,” how will you be able to deal with bigger conflicts later in life? 
     Our brothers and sisters are one of the biggest blessings that God has given us! But sadly, many siblings fight, argue, and miss out on the close relationship that God intends. The problem is not just the surface battles, but the underlying attitudes, wrong concepts, and offenses. Many broken relationships never get fixed. Few enjoy the special, lifelong treasure that God intended. God desires that we not merely “get along” with our brothers and sisters, but that we become best friends! 
     Is this possible? Absolutely! God's Word has the answers for every situation, and the Lord gives grace to those who ask for it. (James 4:6)
     So, how do you stay connected with your siblings as you get older? To some families, it’s a piece of cake, because they were raised with it, and to make it work! … To others, it’s a little more difficult. Granted, asking questions to your siblings isn't always easy! I had read the book, “Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends” by Sarah Mally, about 3 years ago. I wanted to be intentional about having a deeper relationship with my siblings. I knew it’d take a lot of work on my part… and pride
would get in the way many times. 
     You have to really want a deeper relationship, as well as make an effort to be with your siblings. Maybe you think that it’s too late with your siblings to start a relationship with them; maybe you don’t have any siblings; and maybe you don’t want a relationship with your siblings… they did something to you many years ago, that you've never been able to let go past you, or forgive them about. Whatever the case may be, I’d encourage you to try to make it work, and to forgive, and not let it get in the way of a wonderful relationship you could have. After all, that's what peacemaking is all about. :)
"Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God." ~Matthew 5:9~
"Depart from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it." ~Psalm 34:14~


  1. Very encouraging! Thanks for sharing!

  2. I love "Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends!" My mum read it to all of us, and I and one of my brothers particularly felt convicted about the way we were treating each other and our other siblings. I like that it is so enjoyable to read, but as you are reading, you start feeling guilty... :-)
    I like what you've written as well. I work part-time, and now that two of my brothers have part-time work as well, instead of all being together all the time, we each have our own schedules. Sundays are good for being together all day though.


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